What is an actually concrete way of handling this?
Especially if the child is a bully due to his home life….
Most parents don’t want to be told how to parent.
And most likely this is a parent problem that needs to be fixed/adjusted rather than the kid.
Sure we should deal with bullies otherwise we end up with Trumps and Netanyahus…..
But too these men were given everything on a silver platter.
We allowed these bullies and I don’t believe elders could have changed that.
Sometimes kids are raised as bullies specifically to have power over others.
It’s not always harm, sometimes it’s intentional pain and power over others. And in that case should we show that Child/family empathy or should we call them out and ostracize them before the bullying gets out of control as we can currently see on the world stage.
We also can’t forget that our world loves to support bullies as they maintain power and money. Better to be on their side than out in the cold…on the losing side. (Of course that’s not my desire it’s just what I am currently observing.)
Exactly what you said our world is held together by the love, and passion of a few not the many.
Thanks for the article and the tip on the 6 minute writing, I’ll give it a try.
I hear your concerns and skepticm, and I understand that what I'm writing is a lot harder to implement and practice in this world. I don't have solutions because solutions come from the real life practice and the solutions will vary across context // Teaching a child to enjoy power over others first requires incredible violence. Children do not naturally enjoy causing harm and I don't believe people naturally do either. It must be taught, and it's often taught by being harmed themselves // I hope the ritual supports you! Thank you for reading 🌹
Love this thoughtful piece and I shall endeavour to take up your ritual. It feels more doable to me than still meditation
Bullies tend to be louder than the abused child.
What is an actually concrete way of handling this?
Especially if the child is a bully due to his home life….
Most parents don’t want to be told how to parent.
And most likely this is a parent problem that needs to be fixed/adjusted rather than the kid.
Sure we should deal with bullies otherwise we end up with Trumps and Netanyahus…..
But too these men were given everything on a silver platter.
We allowed these bullies and I don’t believe elders could have changed that.
Sometimes kids are raised as bullies specifically to have power over others.
It’s not always harm, sometimes it’s intentional pain and power over others. And in that case should we show that Child/family empathy or should we call them out and ostracize them before the bullying gets out of control as we can currently see on the world stage.
We also can’t forget that our world loves to support bullies as they maintain power and money. Better to be on their side than out in the cold…on the losing side. (Of course that’s not my desire it’s just what I am currently observing.)
Exactly what you said our world is held together by the love, and passion of a few not the many.
Thanks for the article and the tip on the 6 minute writing, I’ll give it a try.
I hear your concerns and skepticm, and I understand that what I'm writing is a lot harder to implement and practice in this world. I don't have solutions because solutions come from the real life practice and the solutions will vary across context // Teaching a child to enjoy power over others first requires incredible violence. Children do not naturally enjoy causing harm and I don't believe people naturally do either. It must be taught, and it's often taught by being harmed themselves // I hope the ritual supports you! Thank you for reading 🌹
To answer your question about a concrete way of handling this, here's a resource for navigating interpersonal violence 🌹 https://www.creative-interventions.org/toolkit/